Separation counseling

Going separate ways is often difficult and lengthy, and you ride an emotional rollercoaster.

A separation in which both partners can part amicably is of course ideal. There is little controversy, and, after the first shock has been overcome, the separation is primarily characterized by understanding. So the theory... Reality usually looks different.

It is a big challenge for couples if only one of the two wants to split up. Grief is one of the predominant emotions, but also anger, hatred and rejection. It is not uncommon for such separations to drag on for a long period of time. Hurt pride does also play a major role.

Communication is often disturbed at the beginning of a separation. The partners have to come to terms with the new situation and first of all practise "reasonable" communication under the new circumstances.

It is an even greater challenge if the couple has already started a family and has children. Then both partners ask themselves whether they should continue the relationship for the sake of the children which in turn puts them in a conflict of interest. 

In a separation counseling session, I support you as a couple to find clarity. Together we find out whether the relationship can be saved or whether a separation is in fact the better way. Even if this is the case, separation counseling can help to create a good basis for communication, which makes the process of separation easier.

I often say to my clients: "It doesn't have to be the end. But an end can also be a beginning!"